Controlling Your Inner Dialogue

One of the biggest problems ALL of us have is controlling our inner dialogue. This is the conversation you have with yourself on a daily and on-going basis.  Now some people have a great internal dialogue - one that tells them to "go for it," and "you can do it." While others have the internal dialogue of:"what if I fail?", "what if I make a mistake?", "what if someone learns that I tried and failed?", "what if I get rejected/lose/embarrassed?" 

Have any of these rung a bell inside your head?

These are self-limiting dialogues. These are just the opposite of the dialogues that athletes, top business people, movie stars, and high self-esteem people have running in their minds on a daily, moment to moment basis.

Controlling your inner dialogue by focusing your self-talk on what you want rather than what you are afraid of can be the biggest single thing you can do to change the outcome of your life - personally, professionally, spiritually, and family wise - that you can ever do. In business, this is more important than an MBA or some other degree that you are considering to make yourself better.

Today - commit to rewrite your future by starting first to rewrite what is being said over and over in your mind. This is internal programming that will keep you locked into be less than you can be. It is typical of most people who grew up in self-limiting home when they were growing up.  And 90% of us have them - and you know who I am talking about.

Start by changing your mind by doing the following things EVERY SINGLE DAMN DAY:

1. Turn off the TV. Now. Start with that - and stop watching stupid mind numbing TV shows that show peoples' problem, and crass no-brainer, no-creativity Hollywood, keep you down shows.
2. Start reading every singe morning - morning - yes - morning - something inspirational, business-oriented, happy, positive, goal directed.  Read for one (1) hour minimum every day. EVERY day. You will not know what happened to your life once you make the decision to do this!!!
3. Turn off the radio in your car. Same crap as #1 above. "But how will I know what is going on?"  I don't know - but some how I do . . .  But not in the detail I once did. And only then when I read the newspaper, read Newsweek, Time, and every other publication I could - to "up on events." But these didn't help me when I was younger - except I was better informed than 90% of the population -AND I became a great debater!
4. Instead of listening to the radio - listen to something educational or inspirational - like a Program from Nightingale Conant - which you can buy or go to the library and check one out
5. Get up an hour earlier every morning to read
6. Make your day one big affirmation. Make each minute you have each day to find out what's right rather than what's wrong - what you can do better - how you can make yourself feel better - (not at the expense of others), do better, and thereby become better.
7. Decide right now you are going to be the best at what you do by your standards mixed with what the boss needs/wants, your clients' needs/want, colleagues needs/want, your family needs, and at the same time feel happy by knowing you are striving to become better and better - rather than worrying.

That's all there is - Try this and see what happens

Packaging Your Expertise - Part 3: Show You Know

So, this is Part 3.  We covered in Part 1 what to "package" what you do or have done - and align that with what the client wants or needs. Part 2 covered how to actually understand all the things you have done and be able to articulate it clearly and succinctly.

In Part 3 we are going to cover "show what you know."  Okay, it rhymes. Pretty exciting, eh? (for my friends in Canada and Maine is the "eh"). 

Sure, but I hope the rhyme, makes you think, most of the time. (Okay, I will stop).

Getting Out of the Middle of the Pack
Here is what I want you to consider: Would you hire someone who is mediocre? The answer is, if you even have to think about it is "No."  Unless you're just not paying someone, then you're desperate, . . . and probably dumb.

But let's stick to the premise you wouldn't hire someone mediocre. You may not be able to attract the best (now the arguments will fly), but you should want to attract someone who is pretty good in their job.  And here is, what I think, is a key differentiator: Someone who gives a damn about what they do.

Giving a Damn - or Passion, Zeal, Zest
Let me explain "Gives a damn." Gives a damn is someone who cares enough to have analyzed their work. The person knows the top 5 reasons why people fail in the role, and the top 5 reason why people succeed in the role. They know the top 5 trends affecting the role, they know how technology is advancing the role and the work they do, they can tell you in clear, exact words, the meaning of what they do to bring about results.  They know their job "inside and out."

How many people do you know that can answer these questions - without stammering and hemming and hawing?  You have to admit - very few. Here's a poke in the eye: Do you?

Can you articulate the answers to these questions unerringly?

Be able to show you know - with confidence. "Here's
where I am going, here's where the industry is going,
I can help you get there."

Here's another question: How do you demonstrate this passion to become the best?  Because that's really what we are talking about here. It is the passion to become better, improve, to become one of the world's first and foremost.

Being middle of the pack sucks. You should demonstrate why you are not "middle of the pack." Your differentiator may be the fact that you are passionate, articulate and bright. You know your business cold. Whether you are an accountant, a SARBANES consultant, an IT developer, a Health and Human Services Caseworker, a Lobbyist, a sales person or wedding planner. The list could go on forever.

If you can articulate clearly, that you know what you know, and where you may be deficient, you hold a key to a lot of doors that would not necessarily be open to you and certainly differentiates you from the middle of the pack.

Packaging Your Expertise - Part 2

Okay - so we discussed a little bit on packaging your expertise the last post by looking at the job description of a companies job requirement. Some of you may see think as "basic" but I am telling you that in my dozen years plus of working in consulting roles, interviewing candidates and working with clients who need temporary contract workers, this "basic" thing that we call it - is probably the most violated concept because either we think it so basic that we do nothing about it, OR, we are just plain lazy, OR maybe we just don't get it.

In any case - here is an antidote to the above.

Create "Major Headings" and Columns
Just lay out the four to five major requirements across the top of the page of paper.  There will be four or five headings. Draw lines separating each of the headings, creating columns.

Got it?

In each column, I want you to think - on paper - what your work entailed specifically around each of the headings. You must write out the information in "bullet form" if you can, in each column. Try to get as many real life experiences as you can regarding each of the areas that the client is interested in - in each heading.

Detailing Your Experience (= Expertise)
You should have at least six to 10 experiences in each column. Now that you have these laid out, review them, see if you can tighten them up so that when you are asked - "Hey, I see you've written Java code for the Android and built the interface back to the SAP system at Harry's Garage - can you tell me about that?"  You can now say - "Well I have about six or seven things to discuss with you about that - at a high level here they are: and then BLAH"  Don't dive into the detail -yet. You can then say; "I can go into detail on these if you'd like."

Now what you've done - is you have built yourself a road map - that you can follow and the client who is talking to you can follow.

Yes - of course you can ask the client the question "Can you tell me what area you would like me to address, because I have a wealth of experience and don't want to get you side-tracked."

Leveraging Who, What, Where, Why, When and How
The exercise of taking the major areas and addressing "who, what, where, why, when and how" in each major column will prove invaluable to your conversations with clients. Think on paper using these "Six Honest Serving Men" to question yourself, gets your brain in motion.

This goes for whether you are interviewing for a project, or a job, or presenting to a client as a consulting firm or consultant. You stay at the "10,000 foot level" first. And then you can do a deep dive into the minutia. 

3 Big Mistakes
Three big mistakes many people (experienced consultants) make are the following;
1. They go too deep too early. In effect they answer questions that aren't asked and they miss an opportunity to show the breadth of what they know.
2. The second mistake is they don't know how to package their expertise. The best way to package it is based upon how the client defines things. By using the "terms" that the client uses as your major headings over each column, you and the client are "in-sync" and "in tune" with each other.
3. The third big mistake is not planning ahead. We think we know all our stuff and don't need to prepare. Then we forget - we freeze - we are not always perfect when asked a question that comes out of the blue.

This packaging technique is not complicated, nor does it take a lot of ingenuity. But it is effective. Try it, you'll be surprised.